“We all create the person we become by our choices as we go through life.” So wrote Eleanor Roosevelt in 1960 in You Learn by Living: Eleven Keys for a More Fulfilling Life, a book that remains relevant today.
Ouch. Salt-on-a-cut ouch.
But here’s the thing. There’s no need to focus on the salt, on the sting. Instead, focus on the potential to heal. Because if your choices helped create circumstances that you don’t like, you just have to make different choices to get a different result.
It’s a lot easier to blame our lives on someone else—an ex, a boss, our parents. But when we do that, we’re just perpetuating our misery. So starting today, let’s look at how our actions—or lack of action—contributed to our current situation. And then, let’s steer the boat in another direction.
Ask yourself these questions:
✓ How did I contribute to my present situation?
✓ What can I do differently to get different results?